the Victim is not really as helpless as he feels, the Rescuer is not really helping, and the Persecutor does not really have a valid complaint

If I thought Wednesday was a crap day, yesterday was effortlessly worse. I started the week talking to some people about personal preferences and styles and understanding your own behavioural comforts and discomforts (I might return to that in a later post) and what that means for how you work best and worst.

Yesterday was more of a Karpman drama triangle. A lot of people snort derisively about these psychological constructs, and transactional analysis in particular, but in small doses I find these ways of looking at why people act as they do endlessly fascinating – in part because I find people so baffling much of the time. At its core, the model has three roles which people often take in a situation:

• The person who plays the role of a victim
• The person who pressures, coerces or persecutes the victim, and
• The rescuer, who intervenes, seemingly out of a desire to help the situation or the underdog.

There’s a twist on this where the roles of persecutor – victim – rescuer seem clear and then you find a switch has taken place and the victim has become the persecutor and the rescuer has become the victim. Yesterday felt like watching one of those switches. The victim turned on the rescuer and became persecutor.

A bit of a fly trapped in a web moment. Which is a tenuous link into a lovely new remix from Catching Flies for Wilkinson. This is more of that lush ambient digital R&B influenced thing he does so well.

Wilkinson – Too Close (Catching Flies Remix)

Catching Flies Remix
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Too Close is due to drop 24th February via RAM Records. Pre order link:
https://itunes.apple.com/gb/album/too-close-remixes-feat.-detour/id774761920

~ by acidted on January 24, 2014.